Hi everyone! It’s been a long time since my last post, a year to be more specific. Big changes have happened since then, and today I want to tell you about one of the most significant experiences that I have had. This year, 2018, we welcome home a new family member: Baby Nico. Before telling you about our current life, I want to share with you how it all started.
In February of 2016, we decided that we wanted to have a baby, and we tried insemination at home, but it did not happen. We didn't even try to do it again or talk about it; it was kind of frustrating. After a few months, we moved to New York, and we decided to give it another try and do it in a clinic. The first appointment was on March 21st, 2017. We found this fantastic doctor, who was recommended by my ObGyn, named Rosalind Hayes. On the first appointment, after several questions and clarify doubts, we decide to do an IUI -placing sperm inside a woman’s uterus-. After the questioning for both of us, she did several tests/examination, including trying to inject a flexible catheter into my cervix. To my BIG surprise, it didn't go through (After all, that was the "problem" back on 2016). On March 24th they had to dilate the cervix. OH, DEAR LORD! It was a straightforward procedure, it didn't hurt at all. I was out the same day, and after that, we were eating pancakes at IHOP. After all appointments and procedures, we were ready to make our second attempt. We did have chosen our sperm donor [which took a lot of time, reading and thinking to decide; let me know if you would like to know how all that happen]. On April fools [funny, right?] I got that washed sperm injected right into my uterus with a little help of a tablet/pill named Clomiphene Citrate. We had to wait a very long two weeks. When the time came, we went anxiously and with high hopes to the Lab. We sat in that cold waiting room for a few hours, only to find out, that same day, I was not pregnant. Days before that I was very nervous and anxious, and every time I went to the bathroom I look down to my undies just to make sure I wasn't bleeding. That same day, just as I was getting home from having the blood work done, I got my period, and that's how we found out. Yes, I did cry a lot and got very frustrated, no one is prepared to receive that kind of news, and I had my hopes highly elevated. I remember we went to Canada the weekend before, and I didn't even drink because I thought I was pregnant. I'm fortunate to have Raisha and all the support she gave me those days. FACT: No one knew about this, which made it harder to cope. I remember family members came to visit on several times and we had to hide the prenatal pills, the sperm catalog or even change some appointments, LOL. A few days passed, and we went to our next appointment to try our third attempt, Dr. Hayes gives us the speech about "all of this can happen,” and we both need to be prepared for this kind of news. Obviously, we knew. We started again from scratch. So, for five days to increase my chances to get pregnant I had to take some new pills and get an injection. Also, we bought another sperm vial, and we waited until I was ovulating. *Fingers crossed*. I'm not going to lie, I was very positive and confident, but at the same time I was very anxious because I didn't want to experience the same thing that happened the second try and Dr. Hayes told us this sperm count was lower than the first one. After two LONG weeks, I did my first pregnancy test, and it came back POSITIVE –“stay calm, because it could be a false alarm because of the injection”-, and had to do not two, three test to finally say I was pregnant. On June second, we saw/hear for the first time our baby. How does it feel? Out of this world, MAGICAL. I remember we both cried, we hear that heartbeat, it was so strong... WOW! Amazing, we couldn't believe it, we were going to be MOMS.
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DIY WOODEN CRATE BOOKCASE
I have to say that I had a lot of fun doing this project and at the end of the day I felt in love with the bookcase, and mostly important we finally got what we wanted and Raisha is happy and loved it too. After collecting all the books, including the ones being eaten by one of our dogs LOL; here you got the final product, I can't wait to add more things! Try it yourself and show me your Bookcase! Send me pictures at the email, or leave a comment below!
XOXO We had to do it! After three years in our house at West Palm Beach, we've been "forced" to move to Canandaigua, NY. Yes, a BIG change! Literally, everything has been a challenge, trading humid temps and palm trees for big cities and breathtaking mountains and driving more than 20 hours straight with the whole family and dogs. The climate: OH JESUS! We missed the sunshine State for sure, theres being around 2 or 3 winter storms at the moment and ups and downs with the temperatures. I actually love the landscapes and cityscapes: the mountains, waterfalls, thick forests and big cities. We still have some boxes around the house, still exchanging the out-of-state driver's license and knowing the town. But more than all of this, we're happy and feeling adventurous, and we want to share our trips and adventures up here (this time for real). So keep in touch... I wanted to do a craft this week for a gift for Raisha's and I found a fun finger painted canvas at Pinterest. However, Im doing this on canvas with acrylic paint and brushes. What you will need: 1 Canvas, Paint, Brushes, Scissors and Painter’s Tape! I went with the word “LOVE”, but you can be creative and spell whatever you desire. Just use the painter’s tape and spell your word. Now it’s time for some FUN! Select the colors you would use and START painting. Once the paint had dry out, remove the masking tape... You can see a little paint go under the tape, I just took a wet paper towel and clean over the little blemishes and TA-DA!
Today it’s my 27th birthday; I am now far closer to 30 than I am to 21 (SAD FACE). I believe that with every birthday, you have the chance to start over again. You can make it your own “new year”, so this year I’ll be focusing on enjoying the things I have, working on the things that are important to me and cultivating my relationships. I’m not where I thought I’d be at this age, I have achieve more than expected; I am now in the CORRECT place with the PERFECT person. I’ve got some big decisions to make over the next year, and some plans to relax and travel.
I read some random webpage that: It’s never too late to change your life. // Smiling makes you and others around you happier. // If you want to do something, you’ll find time. // Care about what you think, not what others think. // Set goals- not succeeding is better than not trying. // With those words remains for me to say: Let's start the journey...!! I know there are other people, but I don't want anyone else. I want you. Even when you're sad, even when you make mistakes, even if we don't agree at times. I still want you. "Affectionate Ladies c. 1900s-1980s""the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component.” -theory by Robert Sternberg What is true love? What do you need to have it? That is THE question. Let's start with... Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness (bound by a legal agreement, in particular). Followed by, Passion – Which is a unique puzzle-piece connection to both limerence (the state of being obsessed with another person) and sexual attraction. And last, Commitment – Which, in the short term, is the decision to remain with another person, and in the long term, is to make plans with that same person... It couldn't possibly be true, right? But, I think it is. A good relationship needs to have them all. We've been together for five years, and our relationship is based on love, passion, intimacy, and commitment. Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human, and for us is the most meaningful element in our lives. I know relationships are all about feelings. No relationship is all sunshine (nothing is completely perfect), because good relationships have those negatives and positives feelings, moments, and experiences… Good relationships take time, patience and two people who truly want to be together. Us, committing to one another, hasn't been easy. Actually, it's been really hard. But we want to do this not only because we want to, but because our lives were written that way... I want you (Raisha), I want all of you. Forever, you and I... It's complicated to explain how I feel about this love. It's incredible how much you can love another person; give everything you have to your Love and see yourself with her at your side forever. I know there are many others who feel the same way. Right? I love my woman and I can't wait to see what the future holds for us. "The amount of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components, and the type of love one experiences depends on their strengths relative to each other. by: Yaderis Montijo
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